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i just want to know what you would do if you were in my situation...

my boyfriend and i just hit the 1 year mark,
thats pretty good for kids our age, we're committed.

at least, i am.

relationships are supposed to make you happy.
not sad.
but my boyfriend just lets me down alot.

we used to be so, so close, but its dwindled down to almost nothing.

he used to say he wanted to marry me, have a family with me.
all that, and he still does.
but rarely...

he lies sometimes, but i let it pass, even if i dont want to.
i do my hardest to be truthfull, i put myself out to make him happy, i let him do things he really shouldn't and he does nothing in return...

dont just say "dump him"
cuz ive been told that so many times before.

but its so hard.

i love him.

im sure you've been in a relationship where you were getting hurt, but you thought
"its gonna hurt more without them"

thats what im going through...

i just need advise off someone thats maybe been through this.

im so confused.
i really need your help.

This seems to be to vague to give any advice.What did he lie about?

Just tell him to stop the lies and stuff or you will dump him. Thats what I would do if I was you.

Godfather wrote: This seems to be to vague to give any advice.What did he lie about?

he lies about where he is...
its really starting to piss me off...

You sound like my younger sister.  She's dating a waste of space as well.  They've split up and got back together more times than I can remember.  He's the type that puts going out drinking with his mates above his relationship.  He says all the right things at the right times to make her forgive him.  During the many times they've been seperated, they are both jealous of if they date anyone else.  I think this maybe where your problem lays.  Even tho you've got feelings for each other, deep down, you must know he's not right for you.  I think that maybe your a bit anxious that if you seperate, there's nothing else there to fill that gap in your life.
You sound like a nice kid and you've got plenty of years ahead to learn from the mistakes you'll make.  Don't sacrifice being happy and doing the right thing because you don't want to be single.  Try expanding your circle of friends.  You may find you'll meet someone new who you'll grow to like more while you distance yourself further from your current bloke.  Dishonesty in a relationship only leads to worse things. At the end of the day, its your decision, but ask yourself, is how your feeling now, the way you want to feel for the forseeable future?

Sheesh, since when did I become an agony aunt

KimmmyLovesRembrandt wrote:

Godfather wrote: This seems to be to vague to give any advice.What did he lie about?

he lies about where he is...
its really starting to [bad word deleted] me off...

I think relationships are tough and there is a certain amount of respect you have to have with each other and about yourself.  If he is doing these things and it bothers you, tell him.  I think you also need to respect yourself enough to move on if it comes down to that and know that you can find someone who will give you waht you need if he doesn't.

Oh Kimmy, love can hurts sometimes... I think you know what you have to do, you just don't wanna do it.
If I had a younger sister, I'd tell her this: you're so young and there are so many great guys out there. Don't stay in a bad relationship (it seems to be the case) just because you love the guy. If it's good, it's worth it. If it's bad, just end it. 

I just think you're not on the same page, you know what I mean? Like I said, you're so young...There is a quote from a 80's movie - "Ferris Bueller's Day Off" - that is worth repeating: "Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." 

it just got better people,

now he's getting a bit too close to another girl for my likeing...

seriously, i wish i had the guts to break up,

what should i say to him?

im at a total loss